Dear Newly Natural Me,
Don’t shave your head bald. I know it hurts for family to be so constantly disparaging of your choice to go natural, but your hair is not the problem. Getting rid of it will solve nothing. Deep down, you know that. You know it because you’ve read the testimonies of other naturals, the history, the basic psychology behind this kneejerk repulsion to your kinks and coils. And I know it is an entirely different thing to read about it than to face it.
Sometimes It’s More than Hair
All at once, it’s not just hair. Suddenly, you realize, it is an extension of you, your personality, your feelings, your thoughts and ideas. Your voice. Your truth. You cry now, not because someone doesn’t like the way your hair looks, but because they reject the woman you are becoming. She is too loud, it seems, too non-conforming, and all too persistent in doing what makes her happy by following her own path. But she is not the problem and silencing her will solve nothing. Deep down, you know it’s only so trying because it is important. It will just take others a little longer to realize that as well.
They didn’t experience the years of embarrassment, the uneven, damaged hair that never went past your ears. The ignorance. The anger, and the shame of the ignorance once you started to read, research, and learn. The relief to know that you could do and be better. That is your truth and can’t nobody tell you nothing. It is your hair and can’t nobody touch it. You are your own person and ain’t nothing about you needs straightening out. Stand and shine, because spoilers: It is so very worth it.
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